Historically, the term cuckold refers to a man who was unknowingly cheated on by his wife. Don’t get too hung up on that, though.
The modern-day cuckold — who’s not necessarily a cisgender or heterosexual male — is fully aware and heartily approves of their partner’s affairs.
Based on internet research 1000’s of people search on Google for these top words “cuckold” or “cuckolding” on a daily basis. Porn sites have also reported that “cuckold porn” is one of the most searched categories.
You woulds be forgiven to think it is just #mensunderwear who want to be cucked, but those desires aren’t specific to gender or sexuality – the “cuckoldress,” or the person having the sex, isn’t always a woman, and the third party, also known as the “bull,” isn’t always a man.
To be cucked:
Psychologists have suggested a number of reasons why someone may be turned on by their partner having sex with someone else.
Biology:
A biological urge referred to as the “sperm competition theory” may play a role in the desire to be cucked. That’s if the cuck is a male of course.
In these scenarios, some research suggests that watching your partner with another man prompts a biological response to have longer and more vigorous sex.
This urge often results in the cuck ejaculating harder, having more sperm in their ejaculate, and having a shorter refractory period between erections so they’re ready to go at it again a lot sooner.
Jealousy:
Knowing someone else wants your partner can kick your desire into overdrive and make you want them even more.
Sexual jealousy can be intense, motivating, and pretty arousing. Some researchers think that jealousy is also a part of what fuels sperm competition and gets a male ready to fight for the fertilization win.
Comparison:
Compersion is the flipside of jealousy; it’s the happiness you feel seeing your partner happy.
The word’s often used by people in polyamorous relationships to describe the feeling they get seeing their partner courting someone else.
In the world of cuckolding, the happy feels come from seeing your partner being sexually satisfied by another.
Humiliation aspect:
Humiliation seems to play a leading role in cuckolding. It comes from the ridicule a person is likely to feel when their partner cheats on them.
For some, humiliation ramps up the erotic intensity of the act ten fold. This can come from watching their partner with someone else, or some extra humiliation thrown in for good measure, like being laughed at or belittled by their partner and the bull.
For others, humiliation doesn’t even factor in because, while par for the course in real infidelity, cuckolding between consenting adults removes it for some.
Submission:
The cuck is essentially submitting to someone else taking over their role in the bedroom.
The pleasure comes from giving up that power of sexually pleasing your partner over to someone else.
Taboo:
It’s no secret that culture idealizes monogamy. So, even though cuckolding is a common fantasy, it’s still considered taboo to share your partner with another.
Partner who enjoys being cucked:
What’s in it for the partner who likes to be cucked? plenty…
Physical pleasure:
Not only is there the obvious physical pleasure you get from engaging in sexual acts with the bull, but the sex gets better between you and your partner, too.
What little research is available on cuckolding shows that both partners report having hotter sex with each other. Also, cuckoldresses report feeling more sexually satisfied.
Cuckolding may also revitalize a relationship that’s become a bit stale over time.
Emotional intimacy:
The consensus is that the majority of couples that partake in cuckolding tend to have excellent communication and intimacy. The willingness to share your deep desires encourages intimacy and brings you closer.
Domination aspect:
Though the rules aren’t set in stone and couples can mix things up as they prefer, the cuckoldress typically takes on the sexually dominant role.
They get to have sex with others while the cuck remains loyal and doesn’t get any — unless their partner wants them to.
If you are the bull in a cucking / cuckold scenario:
As the bull, you’re the third party that gets chosen to come into the relationship. The main draw here is getting to have no-strings-attached sex with someone who is eager and willing.
For some, the dominance aspect is appealing and comes from stepping in and taking over the cuck’s role in the bedroom.
What counts as cucking?
You don’t actually need to go as far as watching your partner have sex with another person to enjoy the fun of cucking. Cucking can involve hearing your partner talk about sex with someone else — real or imagined.
If you’re not quite ready to go looking for a bull, you can get off on listening to your partner talk about sex with someone else. Have them tell you about other people they fantasize about having sex with or the juicy details of past sexual encounters.
Taking it further:
If you’re really turned on about the idea of your partner hooking up with someone else, start off with watching from the distance as your partner flirts with someone at a bar. Too vanilla? Suggest your partner get a sensual massage from someone else while you watch to test the waters.
If you think you can handle more, send your partner out on a date where sex is on the menu and have them share all the details when they’re done.
Going all the way:
Along with watching your partner get busy with someone else, talk about the option of participating in the act. Your role can be as big or small as all parties are cool with, like directing the bull and telling them what to do to your partner or actually getting in there for a threesome.
Cucking responsibly:
Like any other sex act, you need good communication, consent, and respect.
Once you’re both open to cuckolding, you need to set clear boundaries, first with each other and then with your bull.
The same safety rules that apply for online dating or hookups apply here:
- Don’t disclose personal information, like your address or place of business.
- First meetings should always happen in a public place.
- Always have your own transportation to and from your meeting place.
- If going alone, make sure your partner knows where you’ll be and when to expect you back.
- Always have condoms or other barrier methods on hand if sexual intercourse is a possibility.
Places to meet outside of your home:
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